Fashion Sense · Ms. Evelyss

What to Wear to Friendsgiving (Guest, Host or Dressy Dinner)

The short answer

Wear one level dressier than your usual weekend: dark jeans or a soft-waist midi skirt, a fine knit, and clean boots or loafers. Choose a stretchy waist for the meal, sleeves that push up, and socks you won't mind showing, because shoes often come off at the door. Hosts should add an apron.

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“Friendsgiving is the one holiday meal with no aunt to impress, so don't dress for an aunt. Dress for a long table, a warm kitchen and a lot of photos. Wear the good sweater, and make sure the waistband is on your side.”Her take

How dressy is Friendsgiving, really?

Most Friendsgivings sit between weekend casual and a nice dinner out. The easiest way to place yours is to look at three things: the invite, the time and the house. A group text with a sign-up sheet for side dishes means relaxed. A printed menu, a set table and an evening start mean you can dress up.

If you still can't tell, ask one friend who is going what they plan to wear. It takes one message and saves you from being the only person in sequins or the only person in sweatpants. When in doubt, aim one step above your normal weekend clothes. That reads as making an effort without making a statement.

Four outfits that work, from casual to dressy

Each of these is a full outfit you can copy. Swap colors freely, but keep the shape, because the shape is what makes it comfortable through a long meal.

Relaxed apartment dinner: dark straight-leg jeans, a fine-gauge crew neck in cream or rust, ankle boots and small hoops.
Soft and easy: a knit midi skirt with an elastic waist, a tucked thin turtleneck, tall boots and a single pendant.
One step up: a long-sleeved wrap dress in a deep green or plum, opaque tights and low block heels.
Dressy table: wide-leg pants in satin or velvet, a silky blouse or fine knit, pointed flats and one pair of statement earrings.

How to dress for the meal itself

Sit down in your outfit at home before you leave. If the waistband digs in while you're sitting, it will be worse after the second plate. Elastic, a wrap tie, or a dress that skims the waist all give you room without looking like you planned for it. Fitted high-waisted pants with no stretch are the usual regret.

Think about your sleeves too. Long bell sleeves and wide cuffs drag through gravy and catch on serving spoons. A sleeve that pushes to the elbow is far easier. And leave white for another day unless you are relaxed about red wine and cranberry sauce on a crowded table.

What to wear if you're hosting

Hosts spend the first hours in a hot kitchen and the rest of the night in front of cameras. Start with a light layer, such as a thin knit or a short-sleeved top, and keep a nicer layer nearby to put on when the food goes out. A cardigan or an open shirt lets you change your look in ten seconds.

Wear an apron until guests are seated, tie long hair back while you cook, and keep rings somewhere safe while you're handling raw turkey or kneading dough. Choose flat shoes or socks with grip. You will be on your feet for hours, and kitchen floors get slippery.

Shoes, socks and coats: the details people forget

Many homes ask guests to take off their shoes, so check your socks before you leave. Tights with a hole at the toe will be the only thing you think about all evening. If your outfit depends on shoes, tuck a pair of soft indoor flats into your bag.

Also plan how you're carrying your dish. A covered casserole and a long, wide-sleeved coat don't mix well, and a crossbody bag leaves both hands free. Bring a coat you don't mind leaving on a pile on someone's bed, and keep your phone and keys in your bag instead of its pockets.

How to look good in the group photo

Friendsgiving photos usually happen at the table or in a dim living room, so color helps more than pattern. Deep green, rust, plum, navy and soft cream all show up well in warm indoor light. Busy small prints can blur together in low-light phone shots.

A little shine near your face also helps: earrings, a pendant, or a satin collar will catch the light. Refresh your lipstick before dessert, because that's usually when someone says everyone should get in the picture.

Questions people ask

Can I wear jeans to Friendsgiving?

Usually, yes. Dark, clean jeans with a good sweater and boots fit most Friendsgivings. If the invite mentions a dress code or a formal dinner, switch to a dress or dressy pants.

Is Friendsgiving dressier than Thanksgiving?

Not usually. It tends to be more relaxed because it's with friends, though it can run dressier if your group likes an occasion. Follow the host's lead, not the holiday.

What should I wear to a Friendsgiving at a restaurant?

Dress for the restaurant first. A casual place suits jeans and a nice knit, while a white-tablecloth dinner suits a dress or tailored pants. Bring a coat you can check or hang up easily.

What colors are best for Friendsgiving?

Rust, olive, deep green, plum, burgundy, navy and cream all suit the season and photograph well in warm light. You don't need to wear fall colors, but they are an easy default.

The takeaway

One step above your normal weekend, a waist that survives dinner, sleeves that push up, and socks you'd be happy to show.

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