How to Wear a Hair Bow as an Adult (Without Looking Like a Schoolgirl)

The short answer

Choose a bow in a grown-up fabric such as velvet, satin, silk or grosgrain in a deep or neutral colour, and size it to your hair. Place it at the nape of a low ponytail, the back of a half-up style or the base of a low bun. Keep hair, make-up and outfit polished so the bow is the only sweet note.

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“A bow looks childish when everything around it is cute too. Put it on with tailoring, a sleek bun or a black dress, and it turns into the most elegant thing in the room. The trick is contrast.”Her take

Choose a grown-up bow

Fabric does most of the work. Velvet, silk, satin and grosgrain ribbon look polished; glittery, cartoon-printed or stiff plastic bows look like party bags. Colour matters too: black, navy, chocolate, cream, forest green and deep plum read as elegant. Pastels can work in spring if the rest of the outfit is sharp.

Look at how it fastens. A bow on a sturdy metal barrette or a firm clip holds better than a thin snap clip, and a ribbon you tie yourself lets you control the size.

Get the size right

Match the bow to the amount of hair. As a rough guide: fine or short hair suits a small bow, from about two fingers to a palm wide; medium-thick hair can take a bow roughly the width of your hand; very thick, long hair can carry a larger statement bow or long ribbon tails.

Long ribbon tails falling past the shoulders look softer and more romantic; a neat, short bow looks crisper. Choose one to suit the mood of the outfit.

Where to put it

The most grown-up placements are low and at the back, where the bow frames rather than decorates.

Low ponytail: tie or clip the bow over the elastic at the nape. The most classic, and the easiest.
Half-up: secure the top section at the back of the head and clip the bow over the elastic.
Low bun or chignon: place the bow directly above or below the bun.
Plait: tie a ribbon bow at the end or base of a single plait for weekends.
Avoid: big bows high on top of the head, or bunches with bows, which tip into costume.

How to make it stay put

Secure the hairstyle first with an elastic, then attach the bow; the bow is decoration, not structure. If you're tying a ribbon, wrap it once around the elastic before tying the bow so it grips. A small bobby pin through each loop of the bow into the hair underneath stops it drooping or spinning.

Slippery, freshly washed hair benefits from a little texturising spray where the clip sits.

Outfits that make a bow look grown-up

Contrast a bow with something sharp or minimal. A black velvet bow with a white shirt and black tailored trousers looks considered. A satin bow at the nape with a long black dress is quietly glamorous for a party. At weekends, a grosgrain bow with a navy jumper and jeans keeps things easy.

Keep the rest of the outfit free of other sweet details: no frills, puffed sleeves and bow-trimmed shoes all at once. One bow, and everything else clean.

Make-up and jewellery with a bow

A bow adds softness, so polished make-up balances it: a defined lip or a neat flick of liner rather than lots of pink blush and shimmer. Jewellery can be minimal; small hoops or studs and a fine chain are enough. Statement earrings and a large bow at the same time compete.

Questions people ask

Are hair bows appropriate for adults?

Yes, when the bow is in an elegant fabric and colour, placed low at the back of a polished hairstyle, and worn with a simple, grown-up outfit.

Where should a hair bow go?

At the nape over a low ponytail, at the back of a half-up style, or with a low bun. Avoid the top of the head.

Can I wear a hair bow to work?

A small or medium bow in black, navy or brown velvet or grosgrain on a low ponytail looks smart enough for most offices.

How do I keep a hair bow from slipping?

Secure the hair with an elastic first, then attach the bow over it, and add a bobby pin through each loop.

The takeaway

Velvet, satin or grosgrain in a deep colour, sized to your hair, placed low at the back, and everything around it kept sharp.

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